My Beautiful Mother’s Day – Early

by Deborah on May 8, 2012

One of the Daily 10 with Innovate Your Baby is to “Take your Baby Outside” and we do that as often as we can.  My little AJ has learned to love the outdoors almost as much as I do.  While she is no longer an infant, she still isn’t quite 2 years old.  Yesterday, while we were playing outside, I got the most beautiful Mother’s Day present early.

We had been playing (and working) outside for about an hour.  AJ picked the not-quite-ripe blueberries, said “blueberries” and ate them.  “You try, Momma?”  She negotiated her way through the tunnel that the asparagus rows make.  She ate some dirt before I could stop her, and she smelled the fragrant peonies and patted the buds like she pats her dogs and cats.  While I was pulling weeds and thinking about all of the things I needed to get done that day, she found her ball and was kicking it around.  When she disappeared around the corner, I followed her and we played ball for a while before she ran into a chair and started crying.  She asked for “warm milk” which is her term for breast milk and what she wants when she gets hurt.   We sat down on the patio and AJ had warm milk.  She was more startled than hurt, but for a little person, that’s enough to need reassurance.

It was a calm morning and about 70 degrees.  As I held AJ, I watched a momma goose and her babies swimming around the pond.  I gazed at the lovely purple, yellow and pink of the iris and peonies.  Our little cat Missy joined us on the loveseat and our big cat Simba sat under the table.  It was very quiet and peaceful.  I thought for a minute about the long list of work I had to do both for the business and for our home.  Then, I looked at my sweet little girl with her arm around me and her eyelids starting to flutter.  I knew I had a short window to try to get her up the hill, into the house, and in her bed for the nap.  Then, I thought about all the years I had tried to have a baby and couldn’t.  I remembered how much I had longed to have a little son or daughter in my life and how I dreamed of moments just like this one.  AJ’s eyes were now closed and she was breathing slowly and peacefully.  I pulled my coat up over her and decided to stay right where I was.  This moment would never come again.  I enjoyed watching a pair of great blue herons flying over the trees and the lakes.  I listened to meadowlarks, swallows and robins singing their spring songs.  I smiled as a pair of swallows flew really close to us trying to let us know that we were too close to the nest that they build every year by the patio.  I kept looking at the sleeping face of my little girl and it warmed my heart beyond description.  I realized that moments like these are the best part of life but that we miss them so often because we don’t take them.  We all have so much to do every day.

AJ (and Missy and Simba) and I stayed there  for over an hour with AJ sleeping peacefully nestled up against me.  I soaked up the feeling of being with my little daughter and the wonderful peaceful setting.  After a while, AJ began to stir and then looked up at me with her huge blue green eyes.   It was the best Mother’s Day present I could ever have imagined.

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Research shows that reading to infants provides HUGE benefits including improved vocabulary and advanced cognitive skills. A study conducted by Helen Raikes at the University of Nebraska looked at the effects of parents reading to young children in more than 2,500 families.   (There is not a large body of research on the effects of reading to infants under the age of 12 months.  Even this study did not look at reading before the age of 14 months.)  Overall, about half the mothers in the study said they read to their children daily. Slightly more mothers reported reading to their children when the children were ages 2 and 3 than when they were 14 months old.  This speaks to the fact that many parents don’t believe that reading has value for their children prior to toddlerhood (around age 2-3).  The researchers found that English-speaking mothers who started reading to their children at an early age (14 months) had toddlers with better language comprehension; larger, more expressive vocabularies; and higher cognitive scores by age 2.  Similarly, Spanish-speaking mothers who began reading to their children every day at an early age had 3-year-olds with greater language and cognitive development than those who weren’t read to.  In addition, the researchers found that, among English-speaking mothers, the more the mother read, the better the child’s vocabulary, which in turn encouraged more reading.

Children’s books don’t take very long to read and bring unending joy to infants.  My daughter loves “reading” her books each day.  She especially loves the “What Color?” book her aunt bought her.  She shrieks at the “pink” page and always kicks her feet when we take the book out of the drawer.  Pick up a few board books and read to your infant today – he will love it and you will love that you are laying a strong learning foundation that will pay benefits for the rest of his life!

SOURCES: Raikes, H. Child Development, July/August 2006; vol 7. News release, Society for Research in Child Development

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